Roommates can be frustrating.....

Let me preface this blog by saying that this post is going to be a rant. It will probably come across as rude and inconsiderate, but it has been pressing on my mind for WEEKS and I need to get it off my chest. I don't want to have all my anger and emotions come out if/when I confront my roommate so I need to vent it here first. I hope you don't mind.

One of my three roommates I have never lived with before. We felt bad that her roommate bailed on her, so because my other two roommates and I were to be renting a two bedroom apartment, and we all knew her because she had lived down the hall from us last year, we invited her to join us. However, it is still kinda awkward because we aren't really what you would call friends. Sure we know her well enough to live with her, but we don't really know her all that well having only really met her last year and hadn't really spent much time with her before she moved in. This causes a bit of tension between us already because we don't know each other's ticks and so on. The rest of us have lived together for three years and have therefore developed a really strong relationship and while I still notice their quirks they don't really bother me. However, the new girl, just seems to rub me the wrong way. She changes in the bathroom instead of her own bedroom, which to me is just weird and I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does because when she's in there the rest of us can't be. It's one thing if you are showering or something but otherwise you are just taking up the space. Also, we are 3 1/2 months into school at this point and I think by now she should have picked up on the rest of our routines. But no. EVERYDAY she asks what time we will be waking up the next day and who amongst us will be showering when. Really??? Why don't you just wake up when you need to for class and if someone is in the shower, just ask them through the door to hurry up because you also have to shower. We will respond to that I PROMISE. We have all shared bathrooms for four years (and in my case my entire life...three girls one bathroom growing up YIKES!)

And then there is that awkward moment when we are planning outings with our friends and we hesitate and think, should we invite her? I mean she really isn't a part of our close group of friends, yet it would be rude not to since she LIVES with us, but it really is a puzzle because we have had the same group of friends for four years and now I feel like we have this "third wheel" that we have to worry about.

It really shouldn't bother me as much as it does, but I swear I am getting really tired of her. And I know that is incredibly rude and self-centered of me. But I am tired of her constant questions and her constant asking of permission to use things that we have told her 100 times are community property.

This really is like 3 months of venting and I apologize to my readers (if I even have any). It is almost Christmas break and I will be out of this space for like three weeks. I am hoping my time away will give me space to clear my head and put all of these frustrations in perspective and I can come back in the new year with a better sense of how to deal with these problems, including talking them out with the roommate in question. We will probably have to call a roommate meeting or something, but I really do want to get this resolved. It is so draining to be frustrated with someone you live with and not doing anything about it.